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I am very ashamed to admit that I had not properly looked at the lyrics for most of their songs other than their hit songs such as 突然好想你,后来的我们, and 如果我们不曾相遇. I conclude that songs about heartbreak usually get to the crowd most, because these are the songs that everyone can sing along to and drown themselves into when they are down in the doldrums, myself included. The concert today however allowed me to pay attention to other album tracks and I must say many of their self-composed lyrics (partly 阿信’s singing ability too) really spoke to my heart. I never knew that their songs were so personalised to their life experiences and so well-written for the same reason. I shall just post excerpts of the verses that I love the most.

1. 干杯
成熟就是 幻想幻灭 一场磨练
为什么 只有梦想 越磨越小 小到不见

天空不断 黑了又亮 亮了又黑
那光阴 沧海桑田 远走高飞 再没力气追

现在就是 那个未来 那个世界
为什么 你的身边 我的身边 不是同一边
友情曾像 诺亚方舟 坚强誓言
只是我 望着海面 等著永远 模糊了视线

2. 成名在望
那黑的终点可有光 那夜的尽头可会亮
那成名在望 会有希望
或者是 无知的狂妄
那又会怎么样 那又会怎么样

3. 顽固
你當時相信 的那些事情 會在如今 變成美麗風景
每當我遲疑 從不曾忘記 活在我心深處 那頑固的自己

4. 转眼
有沒有人 也笑憶過往 跌跌撞撞 當時的蠢樣
最平凡日子 最卑微夢想 何時才發現 最值得珍藏

有沒有人 告訴我真相 時間就是 最巨大的謊
以為的日常 原來是無常 生命的具象 原來只是幻象

5. 任意门
平凡的我們 也將回到 平凡的世界
生活中充滿 孩子哭聲 柴米和油鹽
曾和你走過 麥迪遜花園 任意門外繞一大圈
答案是「你身邊」 只要是你身邊

Their seniority in the entertainment industry (21 years!) probably played a part in how well they managed to engage with the audience, given how I was nearly moved to tears for some songs that were clearly upbeat. I also appreciated the fact that they highlighted how they, were like all of us, human, and that concert venues in Paris and London were no more than a dream for them when they started out young. They remained modest despite their relatively senior position compared to many other celebrities, and I found them really relatable for that reason. They humbly expressed that it was a great honour for them to share the large venue with many other more famous artistes (Lady Gaga and Sam Smith as a few examples that I saw). They went on to highlight how thankful they are for having moved to a larger venue (The O2) having performed at Wembley the last time they were here in 2014., yet still managing to fill the venue. The concert turnout signified to them that on the other end of the world, we are all still connected to and with the same music – the word 旋律 was used, which might be more appropriate here.

It was a beautiful night, and I hope I will see them again in the future. 也许会有一天 世界真的有终点 也要和你举起回忆酿的甜 和你再干一杯.


CNY 2018

I am currently seated on the plane on my way back to London and will be for the next 14 hours, 旁边坐着一位体臭很重的英国人, realising that there could be worse things than scoring a middle seat or sitting beside someone plump. 他真的很臭, 好像那种体育课结束了却一整天没有冲凉的臭. 又酸又臭, 真是反胃.

I probably have mentioned on my blog several times that although it was a difficult choice to make to come back twice for both holidays, I came back anyway. I am glad because I really, really enjoyed my Chinese New Year. I was only back for 6 days but these 6 days were filled with love, great conversations with my family and extended family, great food of course, and all the festive mood that I missed a lot in my past two years abroad. I am going to write this post in detail just like I did for my blog posts in the past because this festive nugget of CNY will become very very valuable in the future, when I probably will start to have my weekends and public holidays bitterly taken away from me one by one.

Eve of CNY

I arrived at the airport at 0730hrs and made it out before 0800hrs just in case I would be late for the Chinese New Year celebration in RV, and ended up arriving early at school! I did not eat at all through the 12 hours on the plane, and to say I was starving then is probably an understatement. My stomach was starting to feel really empty… so I settled for one random meal at Boon Lay Market: a random bak chor mee from a random stall. I am very sad that I wasted one meal, and ended up so full I could not eat something else for lunch.

I visited RV with Edina and Wei Xuan, and a stray boyfriend whom I sneaked in to wait for me… Although we narrowly missed the conclusion of the Chinese New Year celebrations, we were still early enough to meet all of our JC teachers (陈老师, Mr Huang, Ms Loh, Ms Lim, Mr Lawrence, Mr Ng, Mr Tan, Mr Dass, Mr Sng, Mr Lim). They have not changed much, but I am pretty sure that was how they felt about us as well. Celebrating CNY in RVHS honestly felt very far back in the past because our lives have changed so much since then; I have grown so much that I am far from that person the teachers met in school. It came as a surprise to most of them that Weixuan and I would be graduating within this year (“when did you guys graduate?!”), and I guess it is true that time really stands still when you start working. Many teachers were also more candid with their conversations given that we have graduated and are really grown adults now, especially Mr Lim and Mr Sng, and it just goes to show how quickly time has passed. I feel a bit sad that I was initially disoriented when I first entered the school, although I quickly familiarised with the place where I spent the better 5 years of my youth at.

We did not get a picture together with any teacher because it would be weird as heck to ask one and not ask the others, but here’s a photo of me being sad that I missed my personal phototaking with my own photo on the wall because it probably got removed lately. I went back too late for my own ego, so all I have is an unclear photo from my dearest friends LOL…

More miscellaneous things I did on this day: forcing HT to send me home to shower because I was perspiring too much for my own good since I was not yet acclimatised to the heat and humidity of Singapore, forcing him to enter the game shop at Clementi to look at how expensive the Nintendo Switch is, and forcing him to go home to set up the game console because I was excited to know what he thought about it. Also I would like to remember that although he proudly proclaims himself to be a gamer, he hardly knew what a Nintendo Switch was. “You bought me a Nintendo Stitch?” …..

We had our CNY eve reunion dinner at Ah Poh downstairs, where we always ate zicha whenever we had nothing to eat. HAHAHA. The 鱼生 was honestly very good though!

CNY Day 1

As usual, my family visits my 大伯’s place on Day 1 of Chinese New Year. It was a relatively quiet affair this year compared to the years when Ah Ma was still around. There were a lot of conversations going about because it had been 3 years since the last time I met them together, and lives have changed a lot since then. Most importantly, I was introduced to the game Fibbage! It was such a family-friendly game, and such a good idea because it allowed everyone to be integrated. It was especially interesting because we did not know the knowledge of one another so deeply, and it was difficult to guess what the correct answer was most of the time. Afterwards they gambled a bit, and I was a little disinterested in Blackjack so I sat out.

At night, we continued our yearly midnight movie affair and watched Jack Neo’s CNY movie 梁xi妹. It really sucked, to the point that my sister Googled the movie duration because it was getting so draggy and we were getting so restless. I even took a nap within the theatre. It was really low-budget, and because of this I think the box office would likely rake in profits anyway.

CNY Day 2

In the morning, we visited my Mom’s side (娘家). My mother said that as a married woman, you have to go to your husband’s side on the first day, and you can only visit your marital home after the first day. I am not sure how much this stands true until today, but I think I will be very sad in the future when I no longer visit who I currently perceive to be my own relatives on the first day regardless of whoever I marry. Actually, I will be sadder if I am sailing. Can’t be too greedy in life…

We first went to my Ah Ma’s house in Toa Payoh, then made the trip down to Tiong Bahru again to visit my Mom’s cousin who hosts the visit every year. Tiong Bahru is where most of my extended family is based because that was where my parents met anyway. I enjoyed the visit because I have not eaten the good home-cooked chicken curry in such a long time! The pig stomach soup was also excellent. These generation of parents seem to be extremely great cooks, and I wonder if these home-made recipes will be lost with the times. Unlike my father’s side, there were many more relatives whom I could not recognise. Many more of them were also married compared to the last time I visited, and this meant that there were significantly more red packets received this year.

The visit concluded quickly because we were only there for 2 hours. After that, I followed HT to 拜年 at his parent’s home! I also forced him to buy the Fibbage party pack for $15 hahaha and played it with his siblings. Exploding kittens too, although I died first each time… really quite suay. Forced HT to come to my house afterwards to continue playing Mahjong and Fibbage, and also forced my sister’s boyfriend to come to fill in the numbers. HAHAHA. We played till 2am on this day, although my siblings and I had trouble sleeping until 3am 4am because we were having so much fun gossiping about others. My brother only managed to sleep at 5am 6am, and he kept coming into my bedroom to disturb my sister and I when we were sleeping !@#$%

CNY Day 3

We got up early and scooted our way to 品食 at Yishun SAFRA to celebrate my Dad’s 60th birthday in advance, because I will not be in Singapore during my sister’s and my father’s birthday in early March. It was a good albeit expensive meal, especially since we had to bear some of the costs since we were helping him to celebrate LOL. I guess the time has finally come for us children to chip into family expenses. We also played some arcade basketball, where my Dad lost quite hilariously, and table soccer, that I sucked a lot at.

After that we ran my brother’s errands to Bukit Panjang and Woodlands to collect the decorations for his ROM ceremony the next day in the hot sun because HT’s aircon was spoilt LOL. I also played a round of mahjong with my parents before they left for the casino, won quite a bit to my surprise. HT and I also went out again to finally eat my treasured 麻辣香锅 after sunset, because it was sadly not open on CNY eve. Subsequently excitedly went out with HT, and ended up at Hort Park to take a shit because I was suddenly very toilet urgent after eating that intestine-triggering 麻辣香锅. We ended up heading up the hike to find the bamboo that we once mischievously carved on 1.5 years ago. I am glad we are still together, especially since we were only 2 months in then and I was still undecided over our shaky future.

Also, the random dog that I put right beside my chair to bring me good luck for my mahjong game. LOL.

CNY Day 4

I was awakened a bit between 5.45am and 6am when my brother was having trouble finding this one T-shirt that he wanted to wear, much to my amusement. Once again, my sister and I were slaves and we had to get up early to head to SPGG to help my brother do up the decorations. Thankful for HT who had to wake up even earlier to come to my place to help us carry the things to the venue. We had a good 2 hours to decorate everything, although I was mildly annoyed by the staff because they were extremely lazy that morning. We set up a guestbook table with polaroid films and a polaroid prepared, we set up the ceremonial table with a flower arrangement, pots of flowers and the two doraemon toys that HT and I caught in Japan and purchased two days prior respectively. Honestly, it was quite a simple and beautiful set up to me, and I quite liked how it looked. I wonder if my brother and sister-in-law truly likes it hehe.

It was not my first time witnessing a ROM but it felt very strange because it was my brother getting married. I remember the time my brother came home to tell me that he had a girlfriend, on the day she agreed to be his girlfriend. It was quite surprising at that time because it was not long ago that my brother told me he was genuinely interested in getting to know her, and even more so when my brother was single for a very long time. People were starting to ask him CNY after CNY whether he had a girlfriend especially as he was turning 24, 25 and 26, and still seemed to remain very satisfied with his singlehood. He got lucky, because this girl turned out to be the one after dating exclusively for nearly 6 years, and became my sister-in-law two days ago. I am really happy for them, and I wish them all the best for their incoming future.

The event ended at about 4pm and I went with HT to fix his car’s air-con, after sweating like a cow in his car for the previous few days hahahaha. The car workshops must be earning a lot of money on a daily basis, for them to have the ability to stop work for an entire week without having much repercussions on their income. After that I visited my Uncle’s house with HT, which was a very good decision because they were able to converse so well. I think most people, like me, should be extremely thankful when your partner gels well with the adults, because most are really critical of the partners that their children bring home. In fact, the conversations that we could have were even longer because my Uncle and Auntie could take the time to meet and get to know someone new. They were also excitedly showing him all my cute baby photos, things that they would not have done if I went over alone on a usual day.

For the first time, my Uncle also brought up the day when I went home after staying with them for 1.5 years from when I was born. He mentioned how I was terribly sick that day, and asked if I remembered. I was apparently down with a fever, terrible sore throat and flu. They sent me to the doctor that day intending to send me back to my parents after that. He said I was crying non-stop and refused to go home, crying to my parents that I wanted to stay with them. I suppose these things stick because until today I am still very tearful with departures. Are these the reasons why? I wonder why my parents do not really understand how I feel each time, and I suppose this is something that truly depends on an individual. My Uncle also mentioned that he could not sleep that night because he felt so empty without me sharing their bed, neither was I sleeping on the makeshift hammock that they constructed in their room 😦 He then showed HT the hook where the hammock used to be hanging about 20 years ago, and said how he had not removed it even until today.

I was also actually really sad to hear this, and I was actually trying very hard to fight back my tears because I realised how disadvantaged my Uncle and Auntie were in this game of parenting, because I would not remember their contributions to my childhood at all unless they reminded me. Honestly, they probably shaped my childhood behaviour and habits in some ways that I will never remember too. Some of the habits that they enforced might even be eroded when I return to my own parents who had absolutely different lifestyle habits. How was I to remember what happened when I was one year old? I remember that I found it very odd that I was going over to their place so regularly when I was younger to my Uncle’s invitation, because I found myself displaced when these were parents I did not live and sleep with in the same house. I even felt burdened at some points of my childhood because I did not know what kind of conversations I was to be having, especially when I got very busy with CCA and studying in my later secondary school years. I am thankful I realised, and I hope I will have many more years in the future to repay them as an adult. I am truly lucky to have two sets of parents in this lifetime 😦

After that I went home to play another round of Mahjong with my parents and my brother, and lost terribly! But it is okay to lose money to family, because family income is pretty circular anyway HAHAHA.

CNY Day 5

My last day in Singapore! I woke up at 1130hrs very miserably because I realised I was going to regret it when I get on the plane full of energy because I had such a good night’s sleep. I had a sudden craving for some Japanese food so I made my brother eat Sushi Express with me, and walked around Clementi a bit. Went home and came back to Clementi Mall again for the 328 huat LiHo – if you say “LiHo, How Are You” at 3.28pm, you will get a free drink. It was honestly quite funny la, although Guan Yin milk tea is better and Koi’s milk tea is definitely also better too.

Slacked around, regretted not downloading some dramas, and had to speed out of my house at 6pm because my father and brother could drop me conveniently at the airport on their way to the East. Thankfully managed to meet with HT before I fly off once again because he left work early to send me off at the airport. We had our very full dinner at Terminal 3 as usual, with our usual orders of 板面, 福建面 and oyster omelette. Departure will be 4 months long, and it is really quite a long stretch for us this time, the second longest duration we have ever been separated. Let’s hope he does not find a new girlfriend and forget me in this period 😦

On this note, I would like to thank HT very much, who allowed me to take for granted the fact that I would reliably have a chauffeur in all my days here, ferrying me to Boon Lay, Woodlands, Bukit Panjang, SPGG, to all my 拜年 locations…wherever, even though you stayed at one of the most obscure locations in Singapore. It was a great feeling looking through your windscreen whenever you were on the drive, seeing all my Tsums stacked nicely on the dashboard of your car, and realising that I am lucky to have you. I would probably have been very impatient as a boyfriend if I were a guy, probably also blaming my imaginary girlfriend for not being able to drive, and in those thoughts I am thankful to have found such a patient you. I am also thankful that you were not afraid at all about meeting my extended family and all the parents who have showered love on me ever since I was born. I have to miss you again for the next 109 days. You have to miss me too!

This Chinese New Year was made even more enjoyable because it is the first time I am not really taking this holiday for granted. The fact that I am now a working adult also made the festival much more meaningful because I was no longer concerned about the money I received. To provide some context, I used to count and recount my red packets to the dollar, because this pool of savings was often used to fund all the excessive expenses throughout the entire year when I was unable to save enough (eg. expensive birthday presents for my family, Korean concerts). I also cherish this holiday more because I am afraid that I may no longer get this opportunity to celebrate for such an extended period of time anymore, having been aware that Resilience sailed on two consecutive Chinese New Years (Day 1 and 2), having been aware that Freedom took a duty day on Christmas and a sailing on New Year’s Day. I also saw my public holidays going away one by one, namely National Day and Deepavali, even when I was in Singapore. My time overseas has trained me well to feel less heartache when I have to miss important events, but I know no amount of mental preparation would be sufficient given my emotional attachment to festive occasions. I hope I will be okay in the future.

Reasons why this post is extremely long: because I am extremely bored on the plane. 14 hours is no joke… after taking a quick nap at take off, typing, daydreaming and enduring the terrible smell for so long, I am only 4 hours into my flight…………….. I shall try to sleep now, and probably do some work for my seminar tomorrow. School work is frightening me because it feels as if I have been away from university for such a long time, and I hope I can find the groove to get back into work soon.


Can you see the snowfall by the small opening in the window? The lack of contrast to the rest of the background here (white concrete walls, white cloudy sky) does not allow the full extent of the snow to be seen.

It is a Sunday afternoon and I wanted to go to the library in the morning initially. I knew by experience that the library does not open before 11am having been stuck hovering outside in the cold because I was a little bit too early this one Sunday. After being fully prepared to leave the house at 11.45am (i.e. applied sunblock, filled my tumbler with coffee, filled my water bottle, packed my organiser and turned off my laptop), I got stopped because it started snowing heavily. I was initially irritated (lol off-topic but I accidentally typo-ed “irrigated”), but felt quite bad after a while because I realised snowfall was something that not everyone has the privilege and chance of seeing. It is one thing to see snow on ski slopes and in mountainous regions, but seeing snowfall is a pretty rare occurrence for people who do not often go to high latitudinal/altitudinal regions. Of course, even rarer in a city like London, where the urban heat island effect should hit so strongly that it does not even allow snow to form in its descent from the upper atmosphere.

One good example would be HT’s mom, when he sent pictures of hand-built snowmen and the snowfall in Hokkaido to his family. His mom excitedly responded to his texts with snowman and snowflake emojis on WhatsApp and expressed in Chinese that she would love to have the chance to visit a country with snow one day. Snowfall in London is almost always welcomed because it is a rare occurrence, without the inconvenience brought about by snow because of its relatively high temperatures for its latitudes….. due to the effect of the warm Gulf stream… LOL. London does not experience snowstorms, flight delays and all that associated nightmare, and there is no need to hire workers to clear and salt the roads and add friction-inducing pebbles just to make daily life a bit easier. Snow is just a prettier version of rain. Or so I think, having excitedly been out and about on a snowy day about a month ago.

Also London mostly started snowing heavily this year because before this year it was only slight and short snowing events. I have thankfully never missed any of these heavy snowy days. I don’t think it was supposed to snow that heavily today. In spite of the fact that this is wet snow (no large patches of snow are forming) and that it has stopped me once again from having a more productive day, seeing the snow fall right in front of me as I type this post is very very beautiful. It mostly reminds me how lucky I am to be studying in this truly liveable city, yet being surrounded by neighbouring picturesque regions like the Lake District that show me how beautiful nature truly is.

There is an inexplicable magic in snow that makes me more thankful to be living today, and in this depressing winter season I hope it makes everyone that little bit happier.

Place is space with meaning

It always feels interesting to arrive in London again after an extended break back in Singapore. I revisit the feelings of having a double life, most notably the strange feelings of familiarity in a foreign place when I see Warren Street and King’s Cross again.

Leaving home was less painful this time with the knowledge that I would be heading back in one month’s time – to celebrate CNY and to attend my brother’s ROM, although I am already dreading the back-breaking flight. These flights are really taking a toll on my body each time and I increasingly respect air stewardesses more and more. I also want to thank HT for being there for me each time I depart and arrive, even though you had work commitments and it might have been awkward for you to leave early. Also for always being the giving party in our relationship. Meeting and having you in my life is a true blessing.

2017 in a nutshell

New Year resolutions set at the end of 2016

1. Learn at least 3 more full songs on the piano (the first being 以后别做朋友).
2. Advance far in Korean to attend the advanced language classes by the Korean Society next year, and to understand most drama dialogue by the end of the year.
*3. Obtain my driving license.

1. My piano unfortunately became a dust collector, or maybe a resting area for my clothes when they are still wet. Let’s just say having a teacher and having piano lessons are extremely important for undisciplined people like me when it comes to music.

2. I have not gone that far in Korean yet, but I am currently registered under Upper Intermediate Class 2 for next term – this is unfortunately a bullshit label, I can barely speak a proper sentence. I still cannot attend the Advanced classes because they engage in debates about politics when I can barely mouth out a grammatically correct sentence, but through this process I have realised that it is difficult to track the progress of language learning. I am definitely way more comfortable with listening to simple Korean dialogue though, and am also able to write sentences with relatively intermediate grammatical structures. I improved the most when I decided to sign myself up for Korean classes after summer, as it forced me to listen to my teacher speakƒjune quickly especially as she gave all her instructions in Korean. I also continued attending lessons by the Korean society, and at a point it seemed like I was putting in more effort in Korean than my academic pursuits (not true ok…)

3. Driving is a nightmare!!! I registered for my license in early 2017, and started lessons proper in mid-February. I drove until mid-April when I stopped to study for my examinations, and continued once again at the end of October until mid-December. Now that I have written it out, it doesn’t seem as if I went for many driving lessons afterall… but I disliked every single lesson and I really have Monday blues for this reason. I am sad to admit that I do not have an innate talent for driving or a born affinity with a manual car. I get afraid when I see a car slowing down in front, because I am afraid of stalling when shifting gears downwards. After so long, my clutch control is still pretty atrocious. I get afraid when I see a whole line of cars parked on the left because my left spatial awareness is really bad, and on many occasions my instructor has adjusted my steering wheel when I am on the drive because I am getting too near parked cars or too near the kerb. I am still a nervous idiot when approaching roundabouts. How will I ever get my license at this rate?! I don’t ever see my family members nervous when they drive, so why the heck am I so nervous… I should however, get my license by summer because my instructor told me to go ahead in booking my test, which I have not done because I do not think I ever will be ready. I hope they, as instructors, know best, and I hope her intuitions are accurate.


I paid for and attended the New Year Eve’s countdown north of the river with Weixuan and my batchboys. It was fun, and was not a nightmare getting home as I expected. I went on the UCLSS Ski Trip for the first time, and probably the last time in my life. I am sad to admit that I did not enjoy skiing as much as I thought I would, probably because I spent half the time being worried about getting injured. The muscle aches and blisters on my foot also served as a huge deterrence to enjoying the overall experience, and I was also for the most part of it down with a cold. My body clearly objected to the experience on these many grounds, and it also meant that I was unable to complete my GEOG2002 coursework leading me to achieve 55 marks on that. I guess we cannot regret these experiences though, because it was something I really wanted to go for at that point in time given that many seniors have already gone before me, and any older I would probably collapse on the slopes with injuries all over my body.

I spent the rest of January meeting up with people in the crazily cold temperatures, and attending Korean lessons in my thickest black coat when London hit temperatures of 0 degrees. I will remember these nights. I also remember attending HCI’s Chinese New Year carnival.


Academically, I enjoyed this month because there were no submissions and we were doing interesting things like a fieldtrip to the Men’s Bathing Ponds at Hampstead Heath and practical sessions on ostracods and diatoms. I had a meal at a Gordon Ramsay restaurant (Maze Grill) with Weixuan, Dilys and Xinmei. I had a blast with the Chinese New Year celebrations in London. There was Gold Mine and hotpot at Warwick with the RVUK people, there was another hotpot with the SAF seniors, there was a dinner at Beatriz’s house with Aloysius Beatriz and Youjing, there was another CNY dinner with the 74th people in London, there was a meal with Joey, Rachel and Lavender where I played CNY songs over Joey’s TV and there was the meal at Wern’s place where we had great hotpot. Near the end of the month there was also the gathering with the Intermediate class teachers and students that I enjoyed very much. HT secretly left Valentines’ Day presents for me through Chee Zheng through Weixuan, which was pretty interesting. Dilys, Weixuan and I spent Valentines’ Day at Chiswick Gardens looking at the Chinese New Year lanterns, which was quite a journey from our place after eating Shackfuyu (coincidentally after a disastrous driving lesson). I visited Xinci at Durham and watched Fifty Shades Darker, they did not even check my ID!

I also watched This Week, My Wife Is Having An Affair in this month and it remains one of the most thought-provoking dramas I have watched.


I watched The Kite Runner with Weixuan in the early part of the month, and sneaked to Dilys’ school for a free lunch at LSE. I attended the Korean BBQ outing organised by the UCL Korean Society, which was rather awkward because the intermediate class students were little represented. I remember rushing to finish quite a number of courseworks in this month- for Reconstructing Past Environments, Statistics and the dissertation proposal, assignments that I honestly enjoyed very much. The parcel that I forced HT to send from Singapore arrived, and I was happily living off Bee Cheng Hiang and some chocolates from Singapore. I started running in preparation for IPPT again, and had a lot more good meals with people (Honest Burgers, Patty and Bun, Herman Ze German). I met up with my batchboys, including Kenn Hong and Timothy Kok when they happened to come to London. I got rid of my hair because I dropped too much of it, unfortunately it was cut a bit too short and it tickled my neck. I watched The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time with Dilys and Weixuan. Gordon came to London in this month and put up at my place for a few days.

In this month, I went to Italy with my siblings! I nearly did not wake up on the train to Gatwick Airport, and cannot express how thankful I am when I got out of the train immediately upon waking up and realising that the doors closed immediately to head to the next station. The trip was something that I had anticipated for a very long time, as I had not seen my siblings in a very long time. We went to Milan, Rome, Florence, Venice and Verona together, and created some very funny and beautiful memories there. We bought microwave-able food to share at the Airbnb, and got lost in Venice trying to navigate up and down the stairs with huge luggages. I enjoyed all our jokes and laughter. Surprisingly I was not that sad when I had to leave my siblings at the end of a week, as I knew I was due to see them in a matter of 1.5 months.


I went to Amsterdam with Weixuan and Dilys to meet Jiayan and Kaiyun! I actually find this trip very memorable because it was very well-planned by people who knew the place most (not me oops), I enjoyed Jacketz, the pork ribs at Satellite Sports Cafe, I enjoyed the pancakes, the tulips, and learning a lot more about the red light district scene after watching the peep show. I remember feeling very strongly about these prostitutes, yet sadly realising that prostitution may actually be an attractive pathway for people who value a lavish lifestyle more importantly than their body.

Flipping through my organiser, it seems as if I worked very hard in the rest of this month in preparation for the examinations. I see quotes like “23 days to first paper!!!” and “*3 essay outlines a day!” plastered through the whole organiser page. I honestly do not remember working that hard because I was struggling to stay productive at home with the Forest app. I also thankfully managed to get IPPT Gold in this month, much to my surprise because I have been a potato year-round.


The start and end of examinations. More significantly I remember that I was frightened from my sub-par academic performance throughout the year and in most coursework submissions. It led me to develop a sense of anxiety for my papers because I was overly concerned that I would do badly: for the GEOG2020 Hydrology paper, I realised I forgot to bring my Casio watch when I left the house, something that was extremely significant to me in every examination as I would look at the timer run to pace my essay writing. I ran home to get it, and while making my way back to the examination venue my heart would not stop pounding. I wish I could say I am exaggerating, but I remember how scared I was about doing badly like the previous paper (GEOG2007). I thought about how I might not be able to pick out a single question that I could attempt with my learnt knowledge once again. I was trembling in the 5 minutes before the start of the paper when the venue remains silent while everyone waits for the clock to strike 2pm, and I hated that exam anxiety so so so much. Thankfully that paper went better than I expected.

I ended my last paper on a good note at Camden Town, and went to have lunch at Sushi Waka with Darren and Weixuan. We then went to Lanka for some green tea cake. I felt GREAT!!! The sense of liberation was exceptionally great this year. I also watched Weightlifting Fairy, which was a nice drama. I went to watch Wicked with Dilys, and went to Seven Sisters with Weixuan and Dilys. It was also the month I went home, and I saw HT after a long 6 months of being lovesick. He looked shorter than before, and his voice was more high-pitched than I remembered previously. I also attended Edina’s birthday party, the first 21st birthday party for me in the year after having missed many in the first half of the year.


I attended my second 21st birthday party – Kenn Hong’s party! I also went out with HT a lot in this month and of course spent a lot of money – bowling, KTV, suppers, ice-skating, and a lot more. I was busy relishing in the joy of returning home and unfortunately did not do much academically nor militarily, much to my bitter regret when I started school again this academic year. I also unfortunately started VA on RSS Freedom in this month, and it was really a scary experience to be posted to ship all alone by myself this time compared to the last. By then, I had no batchboys left on the wharf to guide me, and I no longer had a familiar ship crew to call my own. I was all by myself, and it was admittedly difficult in my first few days. I am thankful that I met some very kind people who taught me the ropes and familiarised me into the ship environment quite smoothly, and these are faces and names that I will definitely remember for life. It got more difficult after an unfortunate incident, and if I were to choose again I would rather not relive those days as it was extremely to drag myself to work with an extremely low morale.


Our anniversary dinner was good, but I could not enjoy it properly because I did not feel well. They even gave us a cheesecake on the house. I ended up waking up at 4am and vomiting into the toilet bowl. I fell very sick in this month with stomach flu, with 2 visits to the polyclinic and A&E on Saturday when no clinics were open. I honestly never felt this terrible before. I remember taking a cab to base to hand over the laptops and slides for sailing, and holding a plastic bag all the way because I got so queasy. I vomited everything that went in and had almost no appetite throughout the course of a week. I had a craving for frog porridge one day and made HT drive down to fetch me for it, and I sadly only ate one scoop of the porridge because I wanted to throw up with every bite.

I recovered in the same month, and also attended Dilys’s birthday party. It was a difficult month and lots of tears shed, which I would like to forget very much. In my journey ahead, I vow never to become like the senior officers that have shown little support, only hurling disparaging comments to young training officers. I know exactly what I found unpleasant and demoralising, and this post will immortalise my words to shape my actions in the future.


My mental health faced the most challenges in this month. I celebrated HT’s birthday with him and he was off for his 6 weeks sailing a few days later. It meant that in the many days when I felt beaten and worn out in this month, comfort was not at arm’s length. My mood was greatly affected evident in the many arguments with my family members and my morale was at an all-time low, because I saw no purpose for so many things I was doing.

I constantly faced challenges in getting COC opportunities, and the fact that no senior officers on my ship (lol) wanted to help me crushed me again and again. I remember HT calling me in the midst of his sailing after a few uncontactable days telling me that he had already gotten his COC on his new platform, but he withheld this information from me for a while because he did not want me to be sad upon knowledge of it (“I am not sure if I should tell you this”). I walked to the quarterdeck after ending the call and bawled my eyes out uncontrollably. This was of such significance for me that it was starting to affect the people around me, and I had no idea what to do because so many circumstances were beyond my control. I was even jealous of HT, an officer way more senior than me, because his fellow officers cared enough to even pick out his mistakes and teach him how to improve. I hated starting a new day because it meant I was running out of time. I hated losing out to unfairness when other luckier officers had their seniors fighting for them because they prioritised their growth on ship. I hated feeling like I had to beg people. Perhaps what was most difficult was the fact that I was supposed to be a happy and cheerful person, and I tried to keep this persona even in my interactions with people. Maybe I was, for most parts of the day, when I might be laughing in stupid conversations. But I would walk alone to the female changing room at night on duty days and cry for such a long time because that was the only thing I honestly could do to make myself feel better, to the point that other YOs would start messaging and calling me to ask me whether anything happened to me after realising that I disappeared for quite a while. No lah siao, don’t curse me hor! Nothing happened. I was just slacking in the changing room. I will do the rounds with you later, I would say. I would then quickly return back to ship after making sure that my eyes no longer appeared swollen.

I extended my VA once again. I thankfully gained some opportunities from other ships when I stayed later and, really, begged their appointment holders for it – but I faced even more obstacles when I tried going through the initial stages of assessments with other ships because of different ship cultures and therefore differing expectations as to what “you should be”. Thinking back, I wanted it so much I was so thick-skinned and asked to chip in for every fire drill opportunity and COC assessment. It paid off in the end, but only with help and assistance from the people I was once acquainted with in other ships, and of course I realise that I have to be very very very grateful for the trust entrusted in me and help out of their own goodwill. I ended VA on the last day of this month. I remember enjoying a lunch with my ship crew, and for the first time I actually remember feeling happy to be around the crew. I am thankful I left on a good rather than bad note for the fact that I got my COC, and I actually voiced this statement to my CO who told me that this required a lot of trust on their part. I am once again thankful, and I will not take this for granted in the depths of my heart.


My hair went back to brown to signify being a full-time civilian! I met up with a lot more people in this month and started chasing dragonflies in Bishan-Ang Mo Kio Park, thankfully with HT who spent a lot more time with me after returning from sailing. I swam a lot this month at Temasek Club, because I realised the blessing of a 50m empty pool on weekdays. I also panicked and started preparing for Master’s applications (and am still panicking now), in the midst of my dragonfly data collection. I also drank LiHo too excessively in this month, as evident in my photo albums. I attended Szemin’s 21st birthday party too, much to my delight because I pushed returning back to London one week later.


Back in London. Started Korean lessons, that I very much enjoyed even though there was quite a bit of homework each week. Ate a lot within the span of a week – Breakfast Club, Eat Tokyo, Franco Manca, Burger and Lobster, KBBQ at New Malden, ASSA, all in my first week back. Bank bled a lot but I was very happy to be spending time with people I love, possibly in my last year in this city. I took a lot more photos on the move this month because I would walk past places and think to myself “this might be my last few times walking on this road”, and therefore my phone memory has lots of random photos of UCL, Oxford Street and the Trafalgar Square area. I went to Richmond Park with Dilys and Weixuan to go deer-spotting, and got some very nice photos from the day because it reached a high of 18 degrees if I remember correctly. Had more food – Lobster noodles, £5 ramen, more ASSA, Big Easy, Roti King, some dim sum place in chinatown, more Seoul Bakery, Banana Tree, in-store Franco Manca, Gold Mine, Muffin Man, Honest Burgers, …. ok wtf now I know where all my money went. I also watched Phantom of the Opera for the 3rd time and enjoyed it all the same! Love love love the dramatic effects and music, listening to the soundtrack never gets tiring.


Worked a lot harder academically this month because of the need for weekly blog posts. I actually recall most of my days being spent in the library after school, and drinking a lot more coffee in this month because I have started to grow dependent on it. I had a lot more driving lessons, a lot more paid Korean lessons, and a lot more informal lessons by the UCL Korean Society. Caved in to temptation and bought my second branded purchase – a card holder (surprise surprise, before this they were all gifts or hand-me-downs HAHAHA). My favourite dim sum place in London has got to be Yauatcha at Soho when I ate it with Dilys before watching The Mousetrap, which was an interesting mystery play! Never thought that these concepts could be turned into plays.

Reading week was spent in Toulouse and Carcasonne with Tzching and Weixuan, at which one postcard to my family never did arrive. 😦 The experience in France changed my impression of French people very much from my initial impressions in Paris though, in a good way. They were such welcoming people, and it was honestly strange to travel around feeling so safe in a European city for the first time. For that, it was an enjoyable experience.


I found out something about my ship early in this month, and it shocked me how heartless I was when I showed no sympathy or pity to a senior I was once acquainted with. I think that I am a person who is usually empathetic, but this incident showed me how cruel my heart can be and it scared me mildly. Mostly continued doing work in this month, and worked quite hard for my dissertation this month by going to the library really really frequently. I also went to a KPop Club for the first time and I loved it!!!!!! Now I know why I hate clubs so much – the music sucks (to me) because I never get a thing. KPop club was amazing because I was finally bopping to some music I knew for the first time in my life. I also went to Winter Wonderland, and if everything works out well this may be the last visit in my life 😦 I also had some pre-Christmas meet ups with Darren and the Secret Santa was fun and really memorable – Darren is really an extremely good host and I will remember this. I remember being very thankful to Anson and Jan in this month because of all the help they provided with my Master’s application, and I will not take these for granted.

Mid-December hit pretty quickly, and I went off to Morocco. Missed a flight, had another large expense, but all was okay as we returned safe and sound. I did not end up missing my flight to Singapore. I will always remember the long flight back from London to Singapore because it was incredibly expensive, with one transit in Dubai and one stopover in Colombo which worked out to be the cheapest combination of flights. I was also fortunately seated in the first row of economy (exit seats), where I actually talked to the people in my row – an Emirates cabin crew member who was going home for the holidays, and an expatriate who happened to work in Dubai with 5 years in Singapore previously. I must say it was the more memorable and enjoyable leg. Because I was situated on the exit seats, I also happened to strike conversations with the air stewardess when it came to landing and take-off on the 2 occasions (initial take off + stopover landing + stopover take off + final landing), and got to know her a lot more as well as Emirates’s cabin crew policy. I really enjoyed the flight, which was something I would never have expected because I hate flights so much (no food because I cannot stand the smell of the plane + extremely restless + travel insomnia).

I enjoyed my time a lot at home! We finally managed to continue playing Secret Santa which we have never done after I went off to London. I celebrated my 21st birthday much to my delight, and scooted off (lol) to Japan, namely Tokyo and Hokkaido with HT. I enjoyed the trip even though the flight tickets were extremely expensive.

Overall, it has been a very, very, very good year in spite of all the academic challenges and roadblocks during VA. I have felt more loved than ever, more accomplished than ever having obtained my COC and a better academic performance, and luckier than ever for having all the spending power for holidays and great meals with people I love. I faced difficult months in summer but these were eventually overcome when I worked harder than ever, and I guess these moments were also comparable to the difficult times I experienced in MIDS 2 years ago. My family and friends were mostly healthy, and my sister has also fully recovered from her kidney infection that kept her grounded at home for a few weeks. I am thankful to everyone who has been in my life through the course of this year, and in the near future I will always remember that my 21st year was one that was extremely good to me.

I will stop being greedy about my New Year resolutions because they never come true, so here are some simple ones –

1. Obtain my driving license in London this year. I better do, if not it is just a proven fact that I am a disaster on roads and should not be causing danger to other people’s lives.
2. Get first-class honours! Ok this isn’t that simple to me actually 😦
3. Continue learning Korean.

I am honestly sad about my impending graduation because it means that this enjoyable higher education journey might come to an end soon. Studying hard for examinations is probably all I have ever known since I was 7, and I am not quite ready to leave this comfort zone. Nonetheless I guess it comes at us eventually, and with that I welcome 2018 with open arms.

21st birthday

11 August 2007 (an early one)

2 March 2013

and now, 25 December 2017.

It was never disputed that I would be celebrating my 21st birthday. My brother celebrated his, my sister celebrated hers, and of course I would be celebrating mine too. It forms the bulk of the reason why I paid for a £1038 air ticket to go home during Christmas, or perhaps the whole reason. Many people refrain from holding such celebrations because first and foremost it is a waste of money, and second many people dislike large parties because they have to entertain large groups of guests with little personal touch. I did not think so much. I just wanted to hold a party because my siblings have done so before me, and also because I believe this would be one of the last celebrations I plan for myself. In fact probably the last large birthday celebration I would ever have within the next few decades. I also held the celebration on my actual birthday (Christmas Day) because I did not want to inconvenience the bulk of my relatives and friends who would have Christmas celebrations on Christmas Eve. I am glad I made that choice, as it turns out most of my friends were free on Christmas Day itself, other than a couple of friends who had already headed for exchange.

It was not difficult to decide on a venue either. From the start I knew where I would be holding it – Singapore Polytechnic Graduates’ Guild. It was walking distance from my home which meant that I could walk home after the party, and it was also pretty affordable given that the free use of the function room came with the buffet. Most importantly, the swimming pool within SPGG was where I imagined/conceptualised many (then) future happenings in my life for which I would work hard for, and where I decided on several important life choices which brought me to where I am today. I have enjoyed many of my weekly night swims there, for the purposes of burning off calories from large dinners and to de-stress when I was struggling with my academic performance at some points in JC and before the start of every major examination. It therefore felt appropriate to hold my 21st there, a place I have always been thankful for as it allowed me to find myself in times of confusion. I booked the venue as early as July, and made payment.

I had troubled HT long ago to help me do up the decorations and my brother to help me order the cake. I honestly did not know what else there was to be done for my party, to the point I did not know how to reply people when they asked about my party preparations. Of course, I gradually realise that there were still things to be done one day before the party. Christmas Eve fell on a Sunday and I remained stuck in my London lifestyle when the tube would not even be working after office hours on Christmas Eve. I continually asked my brother “will this be open?” “will that be open?” when he recommended certain places I could go to to settle the party decorations. This is Singapore, everything is open! Thankfully, it meant that we could do tons of last-minute decoration preparation, especially as I started to realise that nothing had been done other than sending out invitations… My family and HT helped immensely during this whole time – my brother was rushing from place to place collecting the cake and buying decorations for me at Bugis together with HT, while my family gave out red packets to all the staff working at SPGG that day for them to share the joy with me (and to bribe them to make sure everything goes smoothly HAHAHA). My sister and my mother went to settle the lucky draw prizes as planned, while HT chauffeured me from place to place to prepare for my birthday celebration. I thankfully owned a HDMI cable at home. I felt so loved in those few days and enjoyed every bit of returning home.

Of course I enjoyed my birthday party. A birthday party brings together people you love from several phases of your life, and their importance to you fits into different corners of your heart. The special celebration allows you to realise how much you are actually loved by your family and friends, unlike birthday celebrations in your teenhood or childhood when you may not have been adequately mature enough to realise the significance. I have missed enough events when I was studying in London to understand that people are absent not by choice, and I am extremely happy to be remembered and loved by all my friends in London as well. I am happy seeing all the loud laughters and smiles during the party, especially during the course of the quiz which was inspired by Dilys’ party.

The people who made everything run smoothly:

Nothing beats coming home to boisterous laughters and loud conversations at 12am. The noise I have always grown up in and been used to. I guess I cannot and should not put a price tag on the quality time spent with my family, and this whole time was definitely worth the plane ride home.

김종현에게 마지막 편지

I quite remember the exact moment I found out. I entered the hotel room in Dar Hassan situated near Merzouga Desert, connected to the Wi-Fi successfully and Telegram messages started flooding. I received one of the worst messages ever:

The message came about 20 minutes after the death was confirmed. In the horribly slow speed of the Wi-Fi I continually tried to load and repeatedly searched “SHINee passed away”, because I did not know who it was. And my worst fears were confirmed when I saw articles by Soompi, Allkpop, and Koreaboo writing “BREAKING: SHINee’s Jonghyun found dead in his apartment” or “BREAKING: SHINee’s Jonghyun committed suicide” or “BREAKING: SHINee’s Jonghyun collapsed and sent to hospital”.

I could not focus on my holiday. I would sit in the car, and like what Chenxi said, imagine Jonghyun bringing the coal briquettes and oil to the apartment and lighting it up. Collapsing on the floor, and choking on breathlessness all alone by himself. What if he actually wanted to live in his last few seconds? What did he see in his last moments – did happy thoughts of his time with the other SHINee members flood his mind, or was he increasingly happy in that struggle with choking because he realised his battle with depression was ending soon?

I felt a bit lost. I did not know how to feel. It was after all a long time since I thought of him to be my ideal boyfriend, a long time since I got angry at the special stage with KARA when he sang and got so close to 규리, when I spent every waking day downloading SHINee videos from SHINee Forums International, and when I spent long nights watching reality shows and music show stages with him inside. It was nearly a decade since I was heavily involved in the forums and activities of SHINee World Singapore, and called myself embarrassing terms like Mrs. Jonghyun. I do not quite remember the intense feelings I had for Jonghyun, namely the feelings I blogged about getting all excited upon touching down in Korea because it meant we would be breathing the same air. The feelings of emptiness and sadness when they were off to Taiwan between 24 and 26 December that year because it meant I would have three days less breathing the same air as the group.

My sister would remember me blocking the TV when the MV of their debut song Replay came on often on MTV China in 2008, because I was not immediately fond of the song. But I fell in love with them after Love Like Oxygen. I remember that very moment when I turned behind on my chair in the study room and I saw Jonghyun in the yellow T-shirt with a shiny golden blazer on TV. The song did not gain as much popularity as their debut song, but I loved it. I repeated the song everyday. I memorised the lyrics by their romanisation syllables because I wanted to sing along to their MV, it was extremely difficult because I did not learn or know Hangul at all. Back when iTunes was still a thing, you would see the song replaying in my MSN Personal Message bar every single day. It went up to a thousand plays and was obviously in my Top 25 Most Played Tracks over several years. I started following SHINee and liking them so much because of Jonghyun. I loved them, even.

Love at first sight sounds like an extremely far-fetched concept, not less when you are talking about Korean pop stars who are separated from you by time, place, culture, language, family backgrounds, whatever. But I idolised him, and honestly probably did so because of his looks. I would laugh harder when he cracked jokes on 연하남 compared to the other members, and enjoyed it more when he disturbed the other members on Hello Baby. I would particularly enjoy his parts of the songs more when he takes the centre positions. I would repeat the high notes in Amigo, when he screams “Oh Baby Juliet” in Juliette, and when he covered DBSK’s Mirotic and covered Changmin’s high note with a shriek. Many girls in school were getting involved with the popular guys in lower secondary. I saw no need, because I secretly had a very very strong romantic crush on Jonghyun. How could anyone be anymore perfect than him? He was handsome, he was at a good height (advertised as 173cm) which was ideal because I was short, he was great at singing, his dancing had improved a lot since his days in his school band when he held a bass guitar and rocked around, and he was so humorous! I dreamt that one day I would be invited to a similar reality show with the SHINee members, and I would pick Jonghyun. In fact I really dreamt of him at night in the past.

From those memories, I have grown up and am increasingly detached from SHINee and their activities especially with the focus on solo activities and promotions in Japan as of late. It has been 5 years since I went to their last concert, although I honestly would have gone to the concert in Singapore on 24 Nov if I were in Singapore given my financial independence now. I remember telling someone that one of my biggest KPop regrets is not having enough money to go for SHINee World in 2010, because I would not have been able to afford it myself and my mother probably would not have sponsored nor allowed me. The distance from Jonghyun since then therefore left me feeling that my sad reactions were rather invalid, but the harder I thought about his death, the more I felt empty, and the more I realised I had every reason to feel sad. It felt like I was losing my first love, and if anything that had really hurt. His voice woke me up on many mornings in 2009 and 2010 when I watched and listened to Amigo, Jojo, Ring Ding Dong and Hello in preparation and on my way to school. I remember working hard and writing my weekly 保障报道 on the cab so that I would be able to chase SHINee around without worrying about homework when they got to Singapore. He was an idol of inspiration, that if we worked hard enough for what we wanted to do, we could achieve success in the same right as he did. He had made an indelible impact in my life especially in my younger teen years, and for that I deserve every right to mourn the loss of this guy, whom I would have loved to communicate my gratefulness for simply existing.

Sadly, I realise that all these thoughts about him being shrouded in only perfection had slowly pushed him closer to the edge, and if anything it only made me feel like a terrible, terrible fan. Jonghyun ah, I am so sorry. I am not a true fan. A true fan would realise that you are only human, and would not expect you to live up to every single one of her expectations. A true fan would not be shocked when she discovers that you started smoking. A true fan would not comment that your increasing number of tattoos were ugly, instead a true fan should have understood what drove your desires to ink those words of permanence on your body. They should have held some meaning to you, and probably should have been avenues to express yourself or to remind yourself to stay strong. I regrettably harboured thoughts that SHINee was one of the only SM Entertainment groups whose members stuck around together till the very end, and gleefully thought that I would be able to attend SHINee’s 10th anniversary concert in Korea next summer after examinations. I selfishly only thought about my own joy derived from these events all this time and how attending these concerts made me overwhelmingly happy, without a thought about how much the SHINee members are sacrificing for the purposes of providing us entertainment to cry and scream over. I remember Jonghyun crying after singing 혜야 at the Singapore show in 2012 and I only thought to myself “again”, as Jonghyun you were known to have these extreme emotions at the end of every concert or when you achieved any award and it no longer surprised the crowd. I am sorry I started trivialising your outburst of emotions when the tears shed represented every inch of your soul and thoughts.

While remaining relatively silent, I possessed one of the attitudes that killed you. I was another addition to the societal expectations of you, that you should have been perfect. You were not like many others who could shake it off, as you voiced out that comments made about you sometimes were extremely unfair. I wish, like many others, that I could turn back time and make sure that hateful comments never got to you. For all the effort that you put into producing, singing and training, you deserved more than baseless accusations about who you were not. I wish you had made friends that truly understood you intimately, rather than having to bottle all your thoughts up and only indirectly revealing some of your thoughts through songs, often clouded by powerful melodies. I wish netizens, like me in the past, would not have reacted so strongly to your dating scandals because it meant you could chase your own forms of happiness. Your life was perfectly orchestrated, manipulated and shaped to please the masses of us, and perhaps at the end of it all you realised that there was no meaning in continuing to live for others. You never got to make any decisions: when other people travel overseas, we unwind from our busy schedules and relax. Your body continued to be shuttled from place to place like a machine for the purposes of belting out songs for screaming crowds, made worse by the occasional few who supposedly loved you the most, who would possibly follow you all the way to your hotel to disturb your privacy and alone time.

If I could turn back time, I would tell you that you were enough for us. Enough for me. If only all of us remembered to remind you again and again that you were enough, and you deserved every right to live your life normally. If only these words could make you stay strong longer through to military service, when you could possibly have one of the longest breaks from stardom, when you no longer have to deal with hordes of fangirls screaming for you. If only you held on a little longer till the management contract expired and you were free to dictate your life as your please away from the spotlight that was too cruel and unforgiving. If only all of us who claimed to love you knew the exact words you needed to push you through your darkest days. You spent your whole life living for us and making fans happy, but we could not do anything for you when you were broken and hurting.

Thank you Beatrice for leaving flowers and a message on my behalf, for him, at the memorial held in Singapore.

이번생엔 다른 사람들을 위해 살기 때문에 오빠가 진심으로 행복하게 살수 없었어요. 그동안 많이 수고하셨고 고생하셨고 오빠를 정말 존경해요. 외로운 느낌이 있었으면서 도와주지 않고 정말 미안해요. 오빠 떠나서도 오빠의 음악와 목소리를 통해 마음을 영원히 기억하겠어요. 이제 고민과 슬픔없이 편히 쉬세요. 다시 태어난다면 다음생엔 평법한 김종현으로 평법하고 행복한 삶을 보내야 한다. 18/12/17, 이 날짜가 영원히 잊어버리지 않아요.